So what is “self-care” really?
There is sometimes a difference between what we want to do and what’s good for us. Self-care should be on the side of things that are good for us, but that feel special and enjoyable. Meditation, yoga, and easing up on self-judgement are all great ways to engage in self-care. Treating yourself to an extra cocktail after a long day, not so much.
A ritual for self-care doesn’t need to be fancy or expensive, it just needs to happen on a regular basis. It can be as simple as rubbing your skin with a fragrant blend of essential oils, or doing a ten minute meditation. The goal is to become centered, renewed, and express love for yourself in the practice.
Here are three tips for getting started:
- Do what you love to do, but with more intention. What makes you feel loved and valued? How do you celebrate achievements or deal with stress? If you’re someone to likes to take a walk to blow off steam, a regular nature walk might be a great self-care ritual for you.
- Imagine yourself as a child. Imagine that you are taking care of that child. How would you take care of little you when you had a bad day, or just needed some attention? As adults we lose so many wonderful practices that were part of childhood, like play and creative expression.
- Schedule your self-care ritual at a specific time, so that it becomes a part of your routine. The practice of a 4pm tea time is a great example. Slow down, step away from work and digital distractions, and spend ten minutes making and enjoying a cup of your favorite tea. It’s simple, and restoring Plus, a good cup of tea is like a warm hug on a chilly day.
Bonus tip: Show compassion. Be generous with someone who needs a hand and you will also benefit. Well-being surges from helping someone else, and after you’ve performed an act of care for someone else, your heart is primed to treat yourself with love, too.